My honest thoughts, beliefs, and understanding of this mess:
Allow me to make something very VERY clear here... The DC and JC can do whatever they want when it comes to whether a Gray is or is not allowed to come to their planet. The issue here was that the entire group/faction/whatever-you-wanna-call-it was banned rather than just the individuals who were causing the issue. At the same time, another issue stemmed from how because we were becoming more like a faction rather than just individuals, we were going to be seen as such; a faction. One where multiple people were ignoring the orders of a DC member. This issue is controversial overall and really can be determined both ways and seen as both sides are right and both sides are wrong. While it doesn't help that the Grays were all going to Tython and essentially working with them 24/7, they shouldn't be seen as just helping Jedi or being Jedi supporters, even if most of the Grays, who had no part in this stupid incident, have perfect reason to now. Essentially; don't just be blaming the Grays, look to the ones who are causing them to do certain things because they have no other choice except to waste away on Tat or Kash.
The whole issue about RP is stemmed from the fact that they don't have any way to help in a RP way because they are never presented opportunity, and when they are it is taken away because people see it as unfair to the rest of their faction since it was something made for THEM, not a Gray, not a Sith, not a Mercenary, and definitely not a Bounty Hunter. This is not just something that happens with Grays. It's just the fact that people see that Gray does it more since there are muuuch less people who are Grays.
Grays are individuals... If you do something that upsets them or do something that goes against their beliefs, they are in the right to attack you. They are NOT, however, immune to the faction planet's rules. If they DO attack someone and the reasoning isn't something that the faction would find to be a good enough reason, they are able to be punished INRP accordingly. We don't get away with senseless murder unless the councils or enforcers allow us to.
The whole idea of Grays actually having Organizations is a broad term or idea. An ACTUAL organization like Scholars or Sorcerers would not be allowed since we are SUPPOSED TO BE INDIVIDUALS. At the same time, you are allowed to make little GROUPS where you and a FEW other Grays are able to work together based off of their beliefs. Said groups are not allowed to be Offensive/Aggressive groups such as Death Squad. IF they do something like Death Squad, it will end up becoming a staff issue, not an INRP issue...
Grays are becoming the new Eternal Empire ultimately since alot of people who were EE were it since they didn't like Jedi or Sith, or they had a life on both factions already. I bring this up since ever since EE got removed, there have been alot more Grays since they don't wanna deal with Sith or Jedi. Believe me when I type that this issue is one of those cases where the Grays are also victims as much as they are the bad guys, if not just a little less. The fact of the matter is; the Grays want to become more organized and, in a way, will cause more issues, conflicts, debates, and protests/riots because of how they are treated.